From the television show “Bones” –

THIS:

Aubrey: “How did you get over it?”
Brennan: “I didn’t.”
Aubrey: “So this isn’t a comforting talk.”
Brennan: “No. The pain is always there; the challenge is to not try to make it go away.”
Aubrey: “Really not comforting.”
Brennan: “Fighting it is the problem. We fight to try and change the past or push it away, but the pain is part of who we are. It’s not easy, Aubrey. Nothing of value is.”

And some of you will get that, and some won’t.