Just ask us – Part Two

Yesterday I led with family history but that’s not really where I was going but it formed a basis for what I really mean to get at. I’m coming at it from a woman’s point of view because that’s the only one I can speak of with any authority, being a woman. Men have different issues and I can’t speak to them with any insight.

This is for all you younger people – the generations after mine – millennial, x, y and even z (are we up to Gen Z yet?)

The human condition has not changed in three million years. There is nothing new under the sun. Whatever you are experiencing/feeling has been experienced and felt before.

Bullying; mean girls; sibling rivalry; teen romances (oh, the tears). We know, we understand – Just ask us.

The trials and tribulations of school – hateful teachers; not being allowed to follow where your curiosity takes you; being told you can’t.  We know, we understand – Just ask us.

All the feels you’re feeling – we felt them. If we are here to ask then we survived them, managed them, came to terms with. Just ask us. And yes, we had friends who didn’t survive them. We’re here for you. Just ask us.

Starting a new career, only girl in the room? Yup. We were there. “Me, too” moments? Holy crap, can we tell you about THAT. How to handle it, what to do/say? Just ask us.

Broken engagements, abusive boyfriends, nasty in-laws, – confidence shot to hell? Oh honey, we know, we know. Just ask us.

Kids, house, husband, job – IT’S ALL TOO MUCH – Yes, all that too. How do you get through it all without losing your mind? You got it – Just ask us.

Middle-aged? Kids off on their own. Husband wandered off too? Starting over when you’ve barely caught your breath from all of that? Pretty much written off by the world at large? Yeah, we’ve been there, Just ask us.

Do we have all the answers? No. Were things harder when we were your age? Maybe but it isn’t a matter of easier or more complicated. It is a matter of the feelings are the same; the situations are the same, just the details vary.

Whether you ask your mother or grandmother or some nice old lady who seems like she might have a handy shoulder and an open ear…When we say  “Been there, done that” it means we understand. We do. We lived it. We can help.

Just ask us.

4 thoughts on “Just ask us – Part Two

  1. Oh isn’t that the truth. I think it was a conversation with my daughter where I said something and she replied with “it was different when you were in school”. Yes, it was. But situations were so similar that I understood the issue.

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    1. Of course you did! And probably if you had a similar experience then you understood her feelings about it. What do younger people think we did with our lives, how we lived, loved, hurt, had hopes and dreams and disappointments. Only the details change from generation to generation –


  2. So true including the shared pain of losing a pet. Everyone who has loved and been loved by a pet knows how hard this is. I see it in their face and hear it in their words. I feel comforted by being understood but also sorry that any of us have had to experience this. It sucks.

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