Considerate of them…

Published on by Grace

Several retailers sent emails this week that read along these lines (this one was from Ancestry.com) “We realize that for some, Mother’s Day may be a tough time. If you’d prefer not to receive emails about our 2023 Mother’s Day sale, you can opt out below”

I didn’t opt out even tho I’d rather not be reminded. I’m not that much of a snowflake. I wonder if they think it might be a tough time because someone’s mother was much beloved? Or – that someone’s mother was much despised?  My mother falls into the latter category.

You know what’s interesting? I had an abusive mother and can never remember when mother’s day is. My husband had an abusive father and he can never remember when father’s day is. Thankfully remembering when these faux family holidays occur is of no importance.  Or about as important as National Stop Sniffling and Blow Your Nose Day.

I’ve been throwing myself a 4-month long pity party and it’s gotten old and boring. While  it’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to, I see no reason to keep inviting others. Which is why I haven’t been writing much.

That said – there are always things that make me laugh – like this

Which always reminds me of an incident that occurred less than 24 hours after we got BB home – little did we know then that this was just a hint of things to come.

11 thoughts on “Considerate of them…”

  1. Laughing at the subtle sandwich thief.
    As for Mother’s Day, I loved mine… but she always hated that holiday. Said if you didn’t love your mother on the first Sunday in May and you didn’t love her on the third Sunday in May, why pretend you love her on the second?

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    1. Those videos always make me laugh. There are several versions of the first one – including the one that has the caption “I’m going to drown you” on the last frame. the other video is mine – obviously. LOL

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  2. Those videos were both funny.
    I read things all the time about how your mother will always be the best friend you ever had. PHFFF. Not mine. My one hope is that my children don’t feel as negatively towards me as I did towards my mother.

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  3. As my own egg donor ditched our plans yet again this weekend I can relate somewhat to the ill feelings such a made up holiday can bring. But now that I am a mother myself I do look forward to it in the hopes that it’s a day when the kids can shower me with some love as opposed to the usual banter, jokes and jabs that come my way. Sometimes I find it hard to brush them off and they start to fuel the negative self talk.

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    1. Egg donor – Good one I’ll have to use it from now on. Banter and jokes are kinda okay, jabs are not. Perhaps it is time to talk about kindness, not to make them feel bad but to let them know – well, enough is enough. The come back usually is “But you know we’re kidding, we love you” And for you to let people know words have impact and consequences and you’re a person not just a Mother or wife. And you have feelings too! 💜💜😘

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  4. Love the video of BB especially your laugh! This is the first year I’ll be in the same state as my mom on Mother’s Day since 1991. Not sure what we’ll do, if anything, but I haven’t put any thought into it yet.

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    1. I’ve been meaning to ask about your Mom. How is she? Adjusting to all the huge changes in her life and have you set any boundaries?

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      1. She’s doing well now that the weather is improving. She likes to go walking every day but wouldn’t go in the rain even though she has a rain coat and when she doesn’t walk, she gets antsy. Her eye issues are not improving so she can’t read which is becoming a huge problem for her. They have sign up sheets for activities like a trip to the tulip farm or a winery, etc and she can’t read it and hates to ask for help. I’ll get her back into the opthamologist and see what if anything can be done. I have set some boundaries and they are working. When she wants me to do something like take her shopping, it’s done when it works best for me which ticks her off but she’s respecting it. It’s all a lot of work but I have to find a way for me to not be under all the stress and pressure to deal with her.

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        1. Oy – does she have AMD? Or just cataracts? There are meds for wet AMD now, dry is more manageable and there just vitamins for that.

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          1. She has severe dry eye from all those years in Las Vegas. She does eye drops and ointment at night but her eyes still burn several times a week. The doctor also thinks that at one point she had a small stroke which has effected her vision. She’s going in for a vision field test in June which is supposed to help figure some of this out. She doesn’t need glasses to see distance and actually most things close up but to read anything she uses reading glasses and even then can’t always make out the words. She says she sees the middle of the words instead of the whole word so she just can’t make out what she’s reading. It’s all so odd but it’s a pain in the ass when she can’t see well enough to read anything.

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